i was recently looking into the tea app issue. this blog is not to ramble on the
technical aspects of the so-called “hack”, but about how it was received by the
community.

i saw a lot of memes saying how an app made to doxx men has in turned doxxed the same women who do it. “ha! they deserved it!”, exclaimed some men. i even saw a 4chan post with the leaked pictures of women from the app with the caption “these are the women who call you an incel”. if you haven’t seen that post, it’s that some of these women look “miserable and fat and ugly”, at least according to them. i do not share their opinion.

but i am not oblivious to the opposite side. there might have been instances of men’s lives ruined by slander.

i am not taking sides, i am simply assessing them.

we live in a society where sarpanch patis and water wives exist. we also live in a society where men are falsely accused of domestic violence and rape. one being true doesn’t make the other false. both are true. anyone trying to focus only on a single aspect either doesn’t know, or is ignorant or has ulterior motives.

back to the point.

but what is sad is, people are very quick to create opinions and make remarks about people and stuff without a second thought. tom cruise is a scientologist and had issues with katie holmes? tom cruise bad. tom hanks supported democrats? tom hanks bad. will smith did whatever he did? will smith bad. kanye west? bad. elon musk? bad. jordan peterson? bad. destiny? bad. don lemon? bad. ben shapiro? bad. kamala harris? bad.

i mean, a person is so much more than their opinion or their actions. there are nuances and layers to a person.

where is the empathy?
what happened to listening to the other person?
what happened to putting ourselves in their shoes?
what happened to being friends despite having differences of opinion?

rather than fighting over differences and resorting to labeling and alienating each other, i think what we should do first is listen to each other, with an open heart.

but it’s hard. i know. but we should be able to. to be kind to ourselves and others.